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For most of my adult life, I’ve worshipped at the altar of Optimization.

My motto has always been “Faster and Better”—the central question of my everyday life being, “How can I optimize this moment and activity to get to my goal faster and b...

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I teach and coach through distinctions—not because I think life is binary or that things are either true or false (although I do believe some things are), but because the mind understands and learns concepts more easily when presented with cl...

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It’s not unusual for me to start a coaching session by asking, “What would make this conversation extraordinary for you?”

That’s because coaching is all about going from good to great—ordinary to extraordinary.

But ironically, my greatest h...

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What are the one or two questions you are asked most often?

It’s worth slowing down to consider, because it’s not just a reflection of others’ curiosity about you, the answer to these questions illuminates who you are—your priorities, and yo...

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Let me start by sharing a truth about parenting I’ve come to believe in wholeheartedly:

“You can’t get it right.”

If humility is your destination, parenting is the most direct and effective path to get there.

Just when you think you got it...

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“Why so hard on yourself?” I asked my not-yet-client, Linda.

It was one of our first “discovery” conversations, where someone interested in being coached by me learns how I work. And crucially, I’m looking for the incredibly hidden—and for m...

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A dear reader and friend in my coaching community, John, asked, “Carolyn, how do you balance healthy self-interest with the need to be fully present for those you care about?”

The question surfaced after I shared with him how privileged I fe...

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Yesterday morning, a client of mine, Peter, sent me a lovely text stating the following:

Peter: "You’re like the human AI!"

Me: "Why?"

Peter: "Because you’ve read every non-fiction book ever written and you have a book recommendation for e...

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Let’s pick up where we left off in “Wisdom I paid for. So you don’t have to–Part 1.” Here, I share with you wisdom snacks 8-14.

8. It’s NOT the thought that counts.

There was a time in my life when I believed that intentions are what ma...

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Recently, a friend, who is also a Professional Coach, asked me the following question:

What is a piece of wisdom that you feel you have consumed and digested in your life and would now like to share with others? She continued, “Wisdom that ...

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Personality is a myth.

For many of us, it’s also a lifelong distraction from our purpose.

We are trained from a young age to believe that this thing we call our personality is something solid, fixed, and foundational. While still growing in...

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Is there something magical about Transformational Coaching?

At first, it can feel that way. You start in a place that seems almost impossible to change—and somehow, you end up somewhere entirely different. Even when your external circumstanc...

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In last week’s article, I shared two core pillars of Transformational Coaching:

Radical Acceptance and

Radical Responsibility.

I’ve capitalized these concepts intentionally because I want them to stand apart from your everyday run-of-the-m...

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If I’ve learned one thing in my career as a Professional Coach, it’s this: all change begins with Radical Acceptance. Think back on your life and identify one meaningful change you made that stayed with you. I promise you—it started with full...

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In last week’s article, I wrote about how fear paralyzes so many of us, taking away our ability to take desired and deliberate actions. I offered deep, genuine understanding as the antidote to fear and a path to action.

Today, I’m expanding ...

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“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.”

— Physicist and Chemist, Marie Curie

I realize that I have feared—and continue to fear—many things throughout my d...

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This week, Jews all around the world are observing Passover, a recollection of our ancestors' time as slaves and a grateful recalling of their journey to freedom.

If you believe in symbols, as I do, Passover is rife with them. Every seemingl...

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“Why should I work with a Professional Coach?”

Let’s be honest—you’ve probably asked yourself this before. No matter how much you learn about coaching, it’s still hard to understand why people would pay so much for something you can’t see, w...

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I just spent five days at a Coaching Retreat with an intimate group of five extraordinary women. Together, we made six, and together, we made magic.

Left to my default, I can be a lone wolf. I’ll take the few over the many, quiet over noise,...

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When I think about identity, I think about how we diagnose having multiple personalities as a disorder. Yet, most of us live lives with multiple personalities and don’t seem to think it’s a problem!

We are different people depending on our r...

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Many of you know that in 1982, my partners and I opened the first Versace boutique in the United States.

Considering the iconic brand it became in the following decades, it wasn't as daunting as you might think. Gianni Versace was still...