Never Explain!

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The more years I collect, the less time and attention I give to arguing, convincing, and explaining.

I love Benjamin Disraeli’s advice to “never explain, never complain.”

People who have known me for decades...

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Raising Conscious Children: Balancing Growing Up and Waking Up

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“My child needs to grow up!”

Nope.

Your child needs to wake up. 

This is my response to parents who confuse “growing up” with “waking up”. 

And I don’t mean they need to become...

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Why Do You Have to Be So Extreme?

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One problem, particular to this moment in history, is how easily obsession can be conflated with extremism.

As a parent, I want my children to use critical thinking, question authority, and appropriately distrust their news...

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Are You Fed Up Yet?

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The Coaching field remains a mystery to so many people.

My mission is to dispel as many myths and share as many truths about Coaching as possible on this chosen career journey.

You can read a selection of those articles here.

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If Life Was a Spotify Playlist, What Would Be Your Soundtrack?

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In a previous article, When Giving Makes You Exhausted… I confessed to being a thief.

A thief of ideas.

I wrote that everything I share, I’ve heard, read, and learned from someone else.

And whether you realize it...

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Fear: Friend or Foe?

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I meet with clients weekly but keep conversing with them between sessions through a shared document.

I do this because life doesn’t conveniently happen, for example, every Tuesday at 10.00 am. It happens in its own time and...

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Zielschmerz: The Pain of Pursuing Your Dreams

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I engage in more coaching conversations per week than the number of clients I have.

I do this because I’ve learned there’s a large delta between people who want to be coached and those who commit to it.

In other...

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Beware of Unearned Wisdom

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Where is the Life we have lost in living?
Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge?
Where is the knowledge we have lost in information?

- The Rock, T.S. Eliot

 

Coaching is so much more about sharing wisdom than merely...

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What Makes Habits Stick? Cue: It’s Not Discipline

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If you ask people why they want to work with a Professional Coach, one of the top three reasons they will give is to get help cultivating or stopping a habit.

Many believe that developing habits requires magic, so we...

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Nothing is Wrong With You. The Disney Promise is B.S.

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In my personal and professional lives, I regularly realize that every one of us is on an endless search for happiness. We believe achieving the next goal allows us to finally experience the joy, relief, and peace of mind we’ve...

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Overcoming Negativity Bias By Choosing Gratitude

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Why do we tend to imagine the worst possible outcomes at first?

Why is it so much easier to anticipate what can go wrong rather than what can go right?

Why is the news filled with a litany of horrors and seldom good news?

Why do so...

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Context Manipulation: A Tool Used By Cowards

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I began last week’s article with the following:

Context is a word abused by people who lack the courage to advocate for moral clarity.

A few folks in my community asked me to explain my reasons for this statement.

I was referring...

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Transform Your Sacred Spaces. LESS Furniture, MORE Memories?

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Context is a word abused by people who lack the courage to advocate for moral clarity. That’s a shame because the appropriate understanding of context can profoundly and positively impact our lives.

We’ve all heard of living...

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How Can You Give Generously Without Being Burnt Out?

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Last week's blog, “When Giving Makes You Exhausted…,” elicited more questions than answers from my readers.

Every day, I receive more emails asking me to dig deeper into the distinctions I identified. 

The...

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When Giving Makes You Exhausted…

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I’m a thief—an excellent one—but still, a thief! I have no new ideas. I've gained everything I know, teach, coach, and write about by being fully present to others’ wisdom. 

I used to think I needed to...

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Under My Willow Tree…

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The more time I spend outdoors, the deeper I fall in love with trees.

Trees are the wisest teachers a human can have.

Trees are everything I aspire to become.

 

Trees are patient.

Trees are generous.

Trees don’t question...

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Are You One Person at Home and Another at Work?

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When I think about identity, I think about how we diagnose having multiple personalities as a disorder. Yet, most of us live lives with multiple personalities and don’t seem to think it’s a problem!

We are different...

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Is Your Preparation a Disguise for Procrastination?

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Today, I want to share a distinction that might not sit well with many of you.

Some of you will resent me for it.

And some of you may change your life because of it.

Even if only one person is moved to make that change because of a...

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Powerful People Don’t Feel the Need to be Forceful

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I took up jogging in my early teens—mainly reacting to the “thinness craze” that was the air we breathed in the 70s and 80s. I jogged and took exercise classes at Jane Fonda (does anyone remember those???) to...

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Reactive Vs. Responsive—Who Do You Want to Be?

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One of the main goals of powerful coaching is teaching, advising, and supporting our clients to become responsive rather than reactive.

Why is this important?

Well, because most of the problems we face in the day, the problems you and I...

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Who Cares What’s Getting in the Way? Just Tell Me How to Move Forward!

Would you continue reading this piece if I told you I wouldn’t tell you how to do something better, faster, and more efficiently?

And with that knowledge in mind, would you hire me as your Life Coach?

Would you trust me to help you achieve a more successful career, better relationships, and...

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Why You Should Refer to Instagram for Quick (and Dirty) Solutions?

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Are you putting a Band-Aid over a bullet hole?

Last week’s blog about Consistency vs. Intensity had clients and readers contacting me with many “how to” questions.

There are two ways to answer “how to”...

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Are You Stuck in the Intensity Trap?

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I’ve been thinking about the powerful effect of Consistency and why it’s such a challenging practice for many of us. I believe the answer lies in our relationship with Intensity.

I worshiped Intensity for more decades than I...

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D.'s Manual for a Timeless and Thriving Marriage

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I have a long-time client who endlessly inspires me.

He is in his seventies, and although I’m his Coach, very often, he’s my teacher.

In the time I’ve been working with him, I’ve seen him transform his marriage...

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