Are you an Amateur or a Pro? Here are 30 Differences to Help You Decide… leadership life skills mindset

My client, Sebastian, thinks he’s behind on “life”.

He thinks he missed the memo the rest of us received on how to live a happy life.

I know better.

Sebastian hasn’t fallen behind and there is no such memo.

We’re all just trying to figure it out.

Unless we’re...

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Idea Doubt vs Identity Doubt leadership life skills mindset

Do you doubt yourself?

Do you then judge yourself for having doubts?

How’s that working for you? (You can let me know the answer to this question after! … so read on).

I know for sure that it’s not working for you because it sure as hell has never worked for me or any of my...

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You Are Your Environment life skills mindset

So, you want to change a habit?

If I was allowed only one coaching tool in my professional coaching toolbox and I mean …

I literally could only use one and no other tool or system … I know which one I would keep. And now you’ll know it too.

I would keep the tool and practice I...

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Sorry (Not Sorry)! communication life skills mindset

What are you apologizing for these days?

Let me guess.

Almost everything?

Most of us go through our days and ultimately our lives habitually apologizing. If you don’t think this applies to you, try the following experiment for a day or a week.

Become aware and take note of how often you...

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14 Challenges of Emerging Adults leadership life skills parenting

Most professional Coaches will tell their clients what to think.

The truth is we need to learn how to think.

I’m an expert in helping emerging adults integrate their emotions, core values and actions in service of their life goals. Teaching them how to think is the skill and mindset shift...

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Ready Vs. Comfortable life skills mindset

My niece, Hannah, just released an album of her heartfelt and deeply vulnerable (and in my opinion, brilliant) work.

To put one’s work and self out there in the world takes courage at any age, but at 17, it takes something more.

Hannah was walking through fear, not because she was...

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The Second Wind life skills mindset

I come from a family of high achievers.

My work as a Life and Leadership Coach has me in constant conversation with leaders who would proudly carry this label. But in pushing the borders of exploring what it means to live a happy life, it has become clear to me that being a high achiever is no...

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"How Do You Define Success?" She Asked leadership life skills mindset

A dear and wise client of mine, Jo, sent me a text last night with a seemingly simple question.

She asked, “How do you define success?”

I read this text at the end of a day that felt like anything but successful! I had failed to finish a 50 mile race that I had trained for with great...

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Go or No Go? life skills mindset

Nobody ever jumped out of bed in the morning and joyfully exclaimed,

“I love creating new habits!”

Nobody ever!

That’s because we all know that forming new habits and getting rid of old, entrenched ones is a shitty process.

By shitty I mean it’s long, requiring higher...

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Are You Ready to Turn Pro? life skills mindset

An extraordinary Life Coach is probably not smarter, richer or more academically accomplished than her clients.

She may not be older, wiser or more worldly than her clients either.

But if she’s really good at supporting them to live a more optimal and fulfilling life, it’s a good bet...

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You Get What You Pay For: The Ways We Confuse Fee with Fine life skills

How often do you blame yourself for making a mistake you believe you shouldn’t have made?

How often do you catch yourself saying or simply thinking some version of, “I was stupid…I should have known better…I can’t believe I let that happen to me!”?

If in...

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Are You a Visionary or Action Hero? life skills

Some people have vision.

I love those people so much! I seek them out. I want them as friends and clients. I’m drawn to them like a hopelessly hypnotized moth to flame.

They like me too. They think I’m one of them.

But I never had vision. Still don’t.  

What I have is...

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If I Could Coach My 30-ish Self: life skills

Are you between 35 and 45 (ish)?

If so, I have some good news and some bad. The good first.

You are strong, healthy, beautiful, sexy, energetic, hopeful, and seemingly unstoppable.

Now for the bad news.

You are (secretly) confused, doubtful, moody, anxious, shameful, exhausted, and alone.

I know...

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Why the Right Group of People is a Mirror — Not a Club life skills

Are you a group person?

I never was.  

Until recently.

At first, my individualism bias was by chance more than choice.

I was an only child for the first eight years of my life, and truth be told, I liked it. I didn’t have to compete with anyone for attention and had a default for...

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How to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions by “Going Upstream” life skills

It’s January 6, 2022!

If you like making New Year’s resolutions, I’d like to suggest the following:

Go upstream.

So many of us make the kind of resolutions that are bound to fall apart (data shows that this happens by mid January, for most) because we’re too far downstream...

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Networking Sucks! Master the Art of Connecting Instead life skills

I absolutely hate networking.

I literally hate the word and everything it stands for.

Most of us are pretty happy going through life meeting and getting to know people organically until some time in our late teens and early adulthood when we are given the message that if we want to be successful...

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The Unexpected Gifts of Grief & Loss - Part 2 life skills

The outpouring of support, love and understanding I received after publishing my blog, The Unexpected Gifts of Grief & Loss about the passing away of my best friend, Ahmed, has brought me to tears on a regular basis. I did not know that so many people would relate to my unexpected...

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The Unexpected Gifts of Grief & Loss life skills
As an adult, it feels silly to call one person my best friend. Many of us who have a few decades of life under our belts, have made friends in different seasons and appreciate each one of them uniquely, but may not see them as a best friend, as we might have in elementary school.

On...

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The Key to Transitioning to a "Second Life" life skills

The chance to live a second life is nothing less than a privilege.  I don’t mean a second chapter, I mean, the opportunity to live a life that feels brand new.

 

I’m writing this blog on a day of the week where I meet with all 3 of my Mastermind and Coaching Groups. ...

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