"How do I make it happen??" was the question I often asked myself as I grew up and well into adulthood.

I was raised to be independent, resourceful, and high-achieving. Bars were not set low in my family. I embraced that perspective and elevated it further because, for whatever reason, I felt compelled to deconstruct and reimagine what others considered ‘good enough’.

Underneath the binary battle raging on social media, TV, and on our campuses, there is a quiet and profoundly wounding battle between those of us who are choosing to speak up and The Silent Ones.

In his article, “Never ever say you’re a Coach,” he explains, “Coaching isn’t a title. It’s a tool.” He continues to say, “I’m not a ‘Coach’. Coaching is just one of the tools in my tool belt. Sometimes, I’m a Coach. Sometimes, I’m a Consultant. Sometimes, I’m a Teacher. Sometimes, I’m a Trusted Advisor.” I agree with Rich. But I also disagree with him about his fundamental point.

Conviction is the ability to be so staunch about an idea that it causes me to reject anything that is not that idea. Most of us are deathly afraid to have conviction in any area of our lives. We fear that others will think of us as radical or, worse, ignorant. We don’t want to lose “followers.” We don’t want to offend.

How did we live without GPS, cell phones, and text messaging?

Were we constantly lost, out of touch, and in danger?

Life before GPS, cell phones, and text messaging may seem different from today, but it wasn't a constant struggle. We managed just fine. We found our way to places, stayed in touch with loved ones, and generally stayed safe.

Across all my conversations with friends and clients, the phrase I hear most often these days is, “I’m exhausted.” This is a surprising statement on so many levels. Firstly, these are not folks who are working 80 hour weeks! Secondly, regardless of their age, they possess the means to travel, socialize, and enjoy their hobbies. So why are they exhausted?

Most of us believe that inspiration is an occasional occurrence. We hear someone’s heroic story, visit a new country, or watch an extraordinary athletic performance, and suddenly, we are inspired! But for how long? Not very… unless we take charge and embrace the concept of inspiration as a force that we can allow into our lives on a daily basis.

Last week’s article — 9 Insights That Changed Me Forever — garnered significant attention from folks in my coaching community. Many reached out with life changing insights of their own. When we slow down to reflect on where we were, or rather who we were, a decade ago, and who we are today, we can’t help but notice change.

I’m often asked to share these very personal insights. So, in no particular order, here are 9 that helped me change my personality and consequently my life.

The antithesis of Good Enough Parenting is Perfectionist Parenting and it rests on the foundation of the belief that we need to optimize every aspect of our children’s lives. But the consequences of raising our children as our projects are now evident to so many of us.

If only my boss wasn't a moron, I'd love my job. If only my partner was more caring, I'd be happy. When things calm down, I'll take care of myself. When I find the right person, I'll travel. These are Toxic Beliefs—the blindspot disguised as an obstacle. The most common? The Contingency Myth. A professional coach doesn't just reveal these beliefs; she helps you test them until you replace them with Power Beliefs.

I’m obsessed with beginnings. Beginnings carry what I think of as “Pilgrim Energy”! I’m talking about that effortless stream of vital energy we experience at the dawn of a desire. Think of the beginnings of falling in love, starting a business, or committing to a big mission.

Coaching is… NOT a hobby. It is a profession (and a sacred one at that). Casually using the title of "Coach" alongside another profession (so fashionable these days on every social platform!) is not the way to becoming a Professional Coach and certification alone doesn’t turn you into one.

Spring is the season of possibility and potential, a time to plant intentional seeds for the future harvest. Let your mixed emotions guide you towards purposeful choices and thoughtful commitments.

Coaching and Therapy share a powerful mission—to make people feel and do better. But they're not the same. Therapy delves into the roots of our behaviors. Coaching propels us toward tangible progress. While Therapy helps us move from dysfunctional to functional, Coaching takes over as a high-performance engine to bring us to optimal. Many people work with both. Here are 6 insights about the real difference—and why it might matter less than you think.

Quite accidentally, yesterday morning I found a written reflection of mine from many years ago in response to the following question: Where have I left? And where am I arriving?

When new changes arise and abundance blooms, your upper limit hits the ceiling. You sabotage yourself and drop back into the old familiar zone where you feel secure. This is the inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity you allow yourself. But once you have awareness of this dynamic, you can reset it. Here are the 11 powerful practices for re-calibrating and centering your focus.

Recently, I wrote a blog about tradeoffs. I expected it to be a sleeper blog—one I found deeply important but not likely to generate much excitement. To my surprise, it struck a nerve with many readers and listeners. The most common response? People wanted to know if I could share more ways to become a true “Master of Tradeoffs.”

Last week, as I passed a park bench, I noticed four women who were clearly in their eighties, huddled together, chatting, laughing and genuinely having a great time. Here is an abbreviated list of my thoughts as I passed them each time.

Transformational Coaching takes skill, creativity and commitment. But more than anything else, it takes time.