This is Where Powerful Coaching Happens

This is Where Powerful Coaching Happens

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I am a Coach who has been writing blogs for this community for years. Recently, I realized that most of my content covers only the basic level of Transformational Coaching.

Powerful coaching happens on three distinct but beautifully integrated levels:

  • Identity
  • Mindset and
  • Strategies and Tactics

 

While many coaches focus solely on “Strategies and Tactics” when working with their clients, transformational coaches extend beyond these tools.

A more advanced level of coaching involves helping clients change their mindset, which requires a strong bond of trust between the coach and client.

Our mindset is the container of our beliefs, and those who seek my services often already possess a high level of self-awareness. They recognize that they are standing in the way of their progress.

Working with my clients on the “Mindset” level, helping them shift out of long-time limiting beliefs, is far more effective than solely advising them on “Strategies and Tactics.” Mindset work creates the kind of change that sticks.

But neither of these levels of valuable work is complete without focusing on the highest level of change—that of “Identity.”

Your “Identity” refers to who you are as a person. Many of us lead lives with multiple identities, sometimes even with multitudes of them. While managing multiple identities may work for some, it becomes too costly for most of us in the long run. Identity Coaching aims to help my clients (as well as myself) become and remain whole.

My private clients understand that the foundation of our work is focused on their emerging and expanding identity. However, due to my limited capacity to work with individuals in a one-on-one and long-term manner, I would like to incorporate more aspects related to "Identity" into my weekly blog. By doing so, I can share these insights with a larger audience.

Going forward, you may observe a shift in my writing style. Although I will continue to provide lists of 10 ways to do something when I gain new knowledge, my main focus will be on sharing my personal experiences and perspectives on more profound subjects related to "Identity".

I will take a break from publishing articles for the rest of this year to focus on my own work on Identity Evolution. I am excited to reconnect with you more profoundly and transformatively in the New Year.

If you encounter a specific issue or limiting belief or need tips for overcoming a negative pattern, refer to the glossary of articles below.

 

1. Evolve and Thrive

15 Life-Changing Practices to Adopt in 2024

How to Make Conscious Commitments? 6 Steps to Help You Succeed

Are You Exhausted?

5 Ways to Get Inspired EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

Your Questions, Answered: 9 Insights That Changed Me Forever

7 Steps to Forge Lasting Connections

9 Ways to Offer and Receive Support

To Begin is to Win

7 Steps to Getting Shit Done

What Are You Leaving Behind?

The Key to Better Decisions: Understanding the Why Behind Your Decision-Making Process

The Power of Creating a Joy List

We Made it! Now What?

How to Be a Fierce Giver?

The 3 Steps to Creating Money

How Can You Speed Up by Slowing Down?

4 Life Principles to Quit the Hustle

Your Future is a Result, Not a Mystery

Kintsugi and The Art of “Creating” Meaning from Life’s Challenges

Is Experience Always The Best Teacher?

The Tyranny of "Should"-ing On Yourself

Why Comparison is the Enemy of Creativity

You Are Your Environment

Are You Ready to Turn Pro?

8 Steps to Creating a Successful Life Transition

You Get What You Pay For: The Ways We Confuse Fee with Fine

The Morning Practice

It’s NOT the Thought That Counts: Why Action Trumps Intention

4 Errors We Make that Lead to the Habit of Worry

The Appreciation Audit: How to Create Relationships That Last

How to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions by “Going Upstream”

To Feel Alive List

You’re Not Confused

Doing Hard Things

Find Your North Star

My Top Time Management Hack

Becoming a Deliberate Something

What About Me?

The “Just Do It” Myth

The "Things Worth Doing" List

The "Shit I Don't Have Time For" List

Self Judgement Is Not A High-Performance Tool

You're Not Stupid - You're Just Impatient!

How to Know if You're a Fierce or Selfless Giver

You're Killing My Soul!

Don't Be a Selfless Giver

4 Practices for Leaders in Times of Crisis

Commitment Vs. Intention

5 Life Skills For Cultivating Inspiration

How to Cultivate the Habit of Slowing Down to Increase Your Productivity

How to Find More Time in Life

How to Improve the Quality of Your Life - an LA Mom Magazine Interview (Part 1)

How to Improve the Quality of Your Life - an LA Mom Magazine Interview (Part 2)

 

2. Communicate Like a Pro

Words Can Help or Hurt. Choose Responsibly

The Cost of Silence - Your Voice Matters

6 Phrases That Sabotage Your Self-Worth

What Luxury Brands Taught Me About Soul Quenching Conversations?

No Frapping - The Powerful Agreement That Creates Bulletproof Relationships

It’s Nice to be Kind! Or is it?

The Apology Habit

Just Ask!

Networking Sucks! Master the Art of Connecting Instead

No Advice Please!

The Gracious No

Don't Go Breaking My Heart

Intimacy is not a Feeling; it's a Result

Self Judgement is Not a High-Performance Tool

The Privilege of Being Still

How to Reach Your Partner

 

3. Grow Your Best Self

Is Help a 4 Letter Word?

Have Freakin’ Conviction!

I Cry Because…

Why Books Don’t Work!

Redefining Seriousness! The ‘Succession’ Effect

Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back? Let's Change That

How Ignorance + Arrogance Helped Me Finish a Sky Race

Ordinary People Can Create Extraordinary Lives

How Do You Want To Be Remembered?

Seize the Season

20 Things I Wish I Knew in My 30s: A Coach's Reflection

Ageless Advisors: 80-Somethings Share Their Secrets

Why Are Old People Slow?

Make Belonging Happen!

Zan Zendegi Azadi

What is Fierce Presence?

Age Powerfully, Not Gracefully

How Often Do You Question Your Worth?

Are you an Amateur or a Pro? Here are 30 Differences to Help You Decide

The Second Wind

"How Do You Define Success?" She Asked

Why the Right Group of People is a Mirror - Not a Club

For Briana

The Antidote to Anger

The Unexpected Gifts of Grief & Loss

The Unexpected Gifts of Grief & Loss - Part 2

Body Purpose: Why We Need to Challenge Modern-Day Culture & Media

The Truth About Belonging

Freedom as a Life Value

Courage is a Verb

My Family of Choice

Life is Long

Change is a Wild Horse

The Key to Transitioning to a "Second Life"

Learn Less, Remember More

What Should I Do?

To Feel List

Why to Feel?

Get Off the Bicycle!

Who Do I Need to Talk To?

Loneliness Vs. Solitude - It's About Choice

Knowing and Doing are Not Related

The Privilege of Being Still

Life in the Time of Corona

What's Wrong with Knowledge?

Commitment Vs. Intention

Freedom From Or Freedom To?

 

4. Shift Your Mindset

#NeverAgainIsNow

28 Things You Control

The Mindset Reset! 11 Powerful Practices

The Blessing of an Ordinary Day

Be a Miner, NOT an Astronaut

Ambition Vs. Greed

Interesting Vs. Happy: Which Life do You Want?

Going With the Flow Vs. Being In Flow - An Important Distinction

Idea Doubt Vs. Identity Doubt

The Apology Habit

Second Marriage with Your First Spouse? Is That a Thing?

Go Or No Go?

Are You a Visionary or Action Hero?

A Unicorn Called Happiness

FOSO is Holding You Back!

The Positivity Trap

Filters Are Not Harmless

Being In Control Vs. Being In Charge

Be Complete, Not Perfect

Balance is a Verb

Is Failure the Opposite of Success?

The Contingency Myth

Are You a Time Thriver or Time Survivor?

Inspiration Vs. Motivation

You're Not Stupid - You're Just Impatient!

Forget About Passion

Loneliness Vs. Solitude - It's About Choice

Good Enough or Not Good Enough For You?

It's a Process - Not a Superpower

Commitment Vs. Intention

Freedom From Or Freedom To?

Dead F_____ Last

Burn the Boats

How to Cultivate the Habit of Slowing Down to Increase Your Productivity

How to Find More Time in Life

Why Creating is More Fun Than Predicting

Toss Your Hat Over the Wall!

 

5. Aspire to Be a Coach

3 Truths for Aspiring Coaches

Coaching is… NOT a Hobby

Nine Superpowers of a Great Coach

Are You Making a Contract or a Covenant?

Band-Aid Coaching?

Niche Rhymes with Quiche

Life Coaching is Not Hourly Work

Knowing and Doing are Not Related

Why No One Needs Coaching

The Path to Becoming a Professional Life Coach

Coach and Be Coached

Coaching In Action

4 Reasons to Meet Your Life Coach at the Beach

Why I Work with the BEST Clients EVER!

The Magic is in the Client!

Why There is No Such Thing as a "Good" Professional Life Coach!

A Gucci Bag or Your Emotional Health?

Why I Became a Life Coach?

 

6. Demystify Coaching

10 Truths I Wish I Could Share With My Clients’ in the Very First Session

Coaching Vs. Therapy - Why I No Longer Give a Short Answer to This Question?

Coaching Vs. Therapy - The Long Answer

The Power of the Determined Client

Nine Superpowers of a Great Coach

Are You Making a Contract or a Covenant?

Are You Read to Turn Pro?

You Don’t Need My Coaching…

Band-Aid Coaching?

Save the Tuition

Niche Rhymes with Quiche

Life Coaching is Not Hourly Work

Get Off the Bicycle!

Who Do I Need to Talk To?

Knowing and Doing are Not Related

Why No One Needs Coaching

Coach and Be Coached

Coaching In Action

5 Ways Life Coaching Has Made Me a Better Parent

4 Reasons to Meet Your Life Coach at the Beach

Why I Work with the BEST Clients EVER!

The Magic is in the Client!

A Gucci Bag or Your Emotional Health?

Why I Became a Life Coach?

 

7. Raise Responsible Human Beings

Beyond Helicopter Parenting

An Ode to Mothers

Redefining Success in Parenting - Why ‘The Parent Test’ is More Than Just a Reality Show?

Raising Conscious Children: Balancing Growing Up and Waking Up

When Do You Become An ‘Adult’?

Are you an Amateur or a Pro? Here are 30 Differences to Help You Decide

5 Reasons for the Quarter Life Crisis

Graduation Advice To My Younger Self

Good Enough or Not Good Enough For You?

Don’t Be a Dick!

A Birthday Gift

3 Reasons My Children Don't Make Me Happy

5 Ways Life Coaching Has Made Me a Better Parent

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