Granted it can be a tough choice to make for many of us, I feel uniquely qualified to guide you through this decision!
After all, for over 2 decades, expensive designer handbags are exactly what I sold to my clients.
Here is what I can tell you for sure. Almost none of my clients ever needed another handbag. What they needed and wanted was relief from the negative emotions that none of us want to experience.
So many people think the wealthy don't suffer from the same mental and emotional difficulties as those who have less money. This could not be further from the truth. Wealthy folks may not have financial struggles, but they face the same "Gremlins" as anyone else. Gremlins that lead us to believe we are not good enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, rich enough, or capable enough.
Why do we underestimate the value of our own (one and only) life? Why do we spend more of our resources on taking care of our lawn than taking care of our mind and emotions?
There are multiple paths to transforming your life. Making a commitment to working with a Life Coach is one, but not the only, way to create a successful and purposeful life.
So the next time you feel the need to buy a designer handbag, or the newest Apple device, ask yourself how you can invest that money in your own emotional growth and happiness.
And if you still want the handbag, go for it! The choice to make positive change will always be available to you.
I'd love to hear your thoughts about a time you were faced with this choice and the action you took.
I’ll admit something that used to embarrass me and now sets me free. I have never had an original idea in my life, including this one. Most of us were raised to believe that if we didn’t invent something from scratch, our offering had no worth, or worse, that we were stealing!
Are you watching Dancing With the Stars? I am, for the first time in my life, and for one specific reason. That reason is fast becoming known around the world by his first name alone, the way we say Madonna or Elvis. Ezra. Ezra Frech is a 21-year-old above-the-knee amputee. He was born with most of his left leg missing—no knee, no fibula—and with one finger on his left hand.
Think about the last time you called someone “ambitious”. Was it entirely a compliment? Or did a small shadow come with it, the sense that you were naming something a little grasping, a little too much? Most of us have learned to hear ambition as a warning. We picture the people who claw and accumulate and never seem satisfied, and we file ambition next to greed, as if they were the same appetite.
One of the most common requests I hear, especially from business leaders and parents, is some version of “How do I motivate my employee, my team, my kid?” I tell them I have good news and bad news. Most people want the bad news first. So here it is: based on my years as a business owner, a parent, and a coach, there is no such thing as motivating another person.
I worshipped Intensity for more decades than I care to admit. "Go big or go home" was my motto, and I lived it everywhere. Instead of eating well most days, I would overeat for a stretch and then starve myself for a day to even the books. Instead of running a few miles regularly, I would run sporadically and then try to make up the lost mileage in one punishing weekend.
If I were allowed to keep only one tool in my coaching toolbox, with every other system and framework taken away, I know which one I'd keep. It's the one I call GIGO. Garbage in, garbage out. It's a crude name for an idea that turns out to be ancient. There's a line in Proverbs I've been sitting with, chapter 4, verse 23. It's usually translated, "Above all else, guard your heart, for from it flow the springs of life."
I hear these words often from my clients, regardless of age or background. They express a universal wish for the three C’s—Clarity, Courage, and Confidence—that so many people hope to gain from professional coaching. But let me share a dirty little secret of the work. The problems we think we're facing because we lack clarity, courage, or confidence are rarely the actual problem.
I'm working with a client who was a colleague of mine when I was a fashion executive. Working together is putting it generously, because I ran a flagship and she ran an entire corporate department. She's younger than I am, but I looked up to her the way a child looks at an adult, as though they're invincible.
The agreements we make with each other shape the relationships we get. One of the most valuable relationships in my life is with the women in my private coaching group, The Wisdom Circle. By design, no one here is new to coaching, and the group's greatest value lies in the collective wisdom the women share with one another.
The Jewish New Year is almost upon us. And the recurring refrain in my mind is, "Phew. We made it!" I don't know what this year cost each of you, and I'm not going to pretend I do. But I know we're here. We took some dodgy turns and weren't sure we could handle the curves. We were scared and anxious and wanted to zone out with Netflix. We fell, got back up, and lived to tell.