Last weekās blog āAre you an Amateur or a Pro?ā raised more questions than answers from my community.
In conversations with clients and readers who reached out, it became clear that every distinction deserves its own chapter.
I, of course, knew this when I was writing the article. But the purpose ...
My client, Sebastian, thinks heās behind on ālifeā.
He thinks he missed the memo the rest of us received on how to live a happy life.
I know better.
Sebastian hasnāt fallen behind and there is no such memo.
Weāre all just trying to figure it out.
Unless weāre not. And there are a lot of people...
āI look forward to receiving a contract,ā
My clients will often say.
My response is always the same and often surprising, if not downright confusing to them.
āI donāt do contracts.ā
Deep transformational life coaching is not a transaction, but rather a commitment of two peopleās time, focus, and...
Do you doubt yourself?
Do you then judge yourself for having doubts?
Howās that working for you? (You can let me know the answer to this question after! ⦠so read on).
I know for sure that itās not working for you because it sure as hell has never worked for me or any of my clients!
We tend to t...
So, you want to change a habit?
If I was allowed only one coaching tool in my professional coaching toolbox and I mean ā¦
I literally could only use one and no other tool or system ⦠I know which one I would keep. And now youāll know it too.
I would keep the tool and practice I call āThe GIGAā ā s...
What are you apologizing for these days?
Let me guess.
Almost everything?
Most of us go through our days and ultimately our lives habitually apologizing. If you donāt think this applies to you, try the following experiment for a day or a week.
Become aware and take note of how often you apologiz...
Most professional Coaches will tell their clients what to think.
The truth is we need to learn how to think.
Iām an expert in helping emerging adults integrate their emotions, core values and actions in service of their life goals. Teaching them how to think is the skill and mindset shift that lea...
My niece, Hannah, just released an album of her heartfelt and deeply vulnerable (and in my opinion, brilliant) work.
To put oneās work and self out there in the world takes courage at any age, but at 17, it takes something more.
Hannah was walking through fear, not because she was comfortable with...
I come from a family of high achievers.
My work as a Life and Leadership Coach has me in constant conversation with leaders who would proudly carry this label. But in pushing the borders of exploring what it means to live a happy life, it has become clear to me that being a high achiever is no long...
A dear and wise client of mine, Jo, sent me a text last night with a seemingly simple question.
She asked, āHow do you define success?ā
I read this text at the end of a day that felt like anything but successful! I had failed to finish a 50 mile race that I had trained for with great commitment an...
I am an expert at helping couples experience their second marriage with their first spouse.
Iām not exactly sure how that happened though, given I, myself, was in a marriage only once for less than four years.
But Pat Riley didnāt need to be an extraordinary basketball player, to lead the Lakers t...
Nobody ever jumped out of bed in the morning and joyfully exclaimed,
āI love creating new habits!ā
Nobody ever!
Thatās because we all know that forming new habits and getting rid of old, entrenched ones is a shitty process.
By shitty I mean itās long, requiring higher than normal levels of c...
Are you in the middle of or considering making a life transition? Truthfully, itās a combination of art and science. Here are 8 steps to get you from information-gathering to action:
1. Know your āWhyā
Having crystal clear clarity about the reason for your transition is the first and most importan...
How often do you blame yourself for making a mistake you believe you shouldnāt have made?
How often do you catch yourself saying or simply thinking some version of, āI was stupidā¦I should have known betterā¦I canāt believe I let that happen to me!ā?
If in reflection you realize that you do this oft...
You donāt need my coaching.
And that may be why you are my ideal client, and I, your ideal coach.
There is a paradox inherent to the business model Iāve chosen.
I choose to coach people who are emotionally and psychologically well, high performing by all regular human standards, and financially c...
Some people have vision.
I love those people so much! I seek them out. I want them as friends and clients. Iām drawn to them like a hopelessly hypnotized moth to flame.
They like me too. They think Iām one of them.
But I never had vision. Still donāt.Ā Ā
What I have is balls!
It feels hypocritic...
We are often drawn to coaching because we think the coach is somehowĀ wiser or smarter than we are. This couldnāt be further from the truth. I have no problem sharing my belief that every single one of my clients is smarter than I am. However, you can safely assume that any effective coach is committ...
Are you a group person?
I never was.Ā Ā
Until recently.
At first, my individualism bias was by chance more than choice.
I was an only child for the first eight years of my life, and truth be told, I liked it. I didnāt have to compete with anyone for attention and had a default for solitude even a...
Whoever coined the phrase āitās the thought that countsā was likely trying to make themselves feel better about disappointing someone due to a half-hearted attempt or one simply not taken at all.Ā
Nobody ever meant it when they let us off the hook by saying itās the thought that counts when we didn...
Worry is nothing less or more than a habit.
Itās complex only insofar as our individual tendency towards it, but otherwise itās pretty simple and, ultimately, a decision.
Worry is self indulgence masquerading as concern and love for others.
Worry is letting our mind indulge in thoughts and scenar...
Donāt look away.
She could have been your child or mine.
Parenting is nothing but one long-held breath.
We inhale as we witness our heart detach from our chest and begin its journey in a world outside of us.
A world outside of our protection and control.
And we hold our breath till the day we d...
Thereās a secret to identifying our most robust relationships.
The secret is that if asked the question, āwhich one of you gets more out of this relationship?ā each party would honestly and easily respond, āI do, of course!ā
This is a concept that our brain doesnāt like. As it considers our variou...
Itās January 6, 2022!
If you like making New Yearās resolutions, Iād like to suggest the following:
Go upstream.
So many of us make the kind of resolutions that are bound to fall apart (data shows that this happens by mid January, for most) because weāre too far downstream from the actual root ca...
I absolutely hate networking.
I literally hate the word and everything it stands for.
Most of us are pretty happy going through life meeting and getting to know people organically until some time in our late teens and early adulthood when we are given the message that if we want to be successful i...